Ten Tips to Successful Dating

Take some of the guesswork out of dating with Catholic Introduction's
dating tips. We have combined feedback from our members, and a little common sense, which has resulted in useful "do's and do not's" for the dating ritual. Our members would agree with us that while looks and chemistry is important, the best insurance for success in dating is starting with compatibility. We hope these helpful hints will help you to gain more satisfaction from your love-life!


1. Be sincere, warm and familiar. When you are on a date, let your partner know that you are having a good time (if you are) : touch their shoulder or their arm; laugh; don't be afraid to show that you are appreciative. A cold approach is only rewarded with the same response.

2. Don't reveal too much about your past. No one wants to hear a litany about their date's past on the first meeting. Keep the "mystery" alive by revealing only the necessary amount of information until you know the person better. Take your time! Enjoy each other!

3. Self confidence, not arrogance, is an aphrodisiac. Look your best, smile, and above all: love yourself. Remember, if you have low self-esteem, you might attract an unhealthy partner.

4. Never talk about your 'ex' on the first date. Talk about life, no ex-loves. You may appear hateful (if you are) or appear that you would much rather be with that other person. Speak lightly about past relationships - and never go into detail in a negative fashion. The opposite sex will always take the side of their gender.

5. Develop a sense of humor. Cultivate your funny bone: read humorous books, see comedies, don't be afraid to laugh out loud! The common denominator in what everyone is seeking is someone who can add enjoyment and a light-heartedness to their lives. In addition to being more attractive to your date, you will both have a better time out together!

6. Maintain a fluid exchange of open communication and conversation. No one person should dominate the conversation. Pay attention, develop eye contact, be alert and respond. Don't monopolize the entire discussion. Try and strike a harmonious balance. If this type of behavior continues on a second date, move on.

7. Don't rate your date solely on the basis of a two-hour meeting. The single biggest mistake that men and women make when dating is that they think every date should be as exciting as the Fourth of July. Get to know the person over time in a variety of settings and then make an intelligent, informed decision as to whether to continue.

8. Date against "your type" or your "ideal". Although many people are looking for a specific "type" of person or have an "ideal" mate in mind, the best rule of thumb in dating is: if the individual is kind and considerate - go for it! Too often a true gem is passed by because they don't seem to fit your preconceived ideal.

9. Be accessible (don't try to impress your date with your busy schedule - but don't appear needy either). Although this may be impressive to you, a busy schedule often gives your date the impression that you won't have any time for them in the future. Believe it or not - availability is a big turn-on!

10. Don't talk about health problems. Discussing your personal health problems with your date will make you appear to be older and - worse - look older! And a potential health risk! Your date is not your doctor (even if they are a doctor) and should not be subjected to a list of your aches and pains.